We've all had that moment in life where we've told ourselves over and over again "this time I'm going to get it done!” But as soon as we start working towards that goal or the betterment of yourself, distractions get in the way.
It may be an argument a few days ago with one of your friends or family members, your social media feeds filled with too many imposters or text messages from an annoying old boo refusing to let you move on. You've gone from being extremely ambitious to quickly obsessing over minor matters that are not contributing to your growth at all!
We have to remain strong and focused ladies! Your experiences and relationships play a significant role in shaping your future. So it's extremely important for us to be careful with who and what we invest our time in. Below are four ways you can weed out the distractions in your life
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1. Recognize what your distractions are
Every time you want to pursue a goal, what gets in the way? Is it family members constantly nagging you about everything, friends thinking that your life revolves around theirs, on and off relationships with men, or images on social media having you think your life sucks? Write your distractions down in a journal and develop practical ways for you to avoid each one.
2. Stop entertaining toxic friendships
Stop entertaining friendships that aren't pushing you to be better. Surround yourself with individuals who inspire you, bend over backwards for you, and see the potential in you to be greater. It's that simple. If you're friends aren't helping you become the best version of yourself, let them go! Dead weight will weigh you down! But positivity will propel you towards greatness.
3. Use more of your free time to participate in activities that will contribute to perfecting your craft
Quit investing so much time in activities that aren't enhancing your life. You have so many goals, yet you're turning up every week, traveling all over the world or looking for the next boo to go on a date with. Do these things in moderation. Indulge in these activities AFTER you've accomplished a major goal on your list. Look at it as a way of rewarding yourself after a period of working extremely hard. These activities will only bring you joy temporarily. But spending your free time perfecting your craft, improving your business plan, or networking with likeminded individuals will draw you a step closer to your goal.
4. Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize!
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When I pursue my goals, I remind myself that I have no time for political correctness or disclaiming every single sentence so as to not “offend” anyone. I know I have to focus on doing everything possible to become the best version of myself. If that means I have to limit my time with certain people, and even exclude a few more, then that is exactly what I’m going to do. Why? Well, because I've made the goal of fulfilling my purpose my number one priority.
Are you doing everything within your power to fulfill your goals? Are you devoting time to pursuing your goals? Are you committed? Have you made any sacrifices? If your answer is no, then your goals are not a priority!
This part of your life sets the bar for how high you will go in life? You know hard you've worked mentally, spiritually, and emotionally to get where you currently are in life. So quit allowing temporary distractions to pull you away from permanent success. How will you ever be able to hear God or see your purpose, when your mind’s crowded?
Rita Obi, MPH is the founder of @buildingyou, a consulting business that works with nonprofit startups to develop programs, workshops, and events suitable to their persona, in an effort to secure funding. She has over 7 years of experience providing consulting services and training to nonprofits startups in areas of program planning and fundraising. She has served organizations in New York such as Children's Hospital At Montefiore, New York City Food Policy Center and organizations in Nigeria such as UR4 Africa and Head Start Private School . Rita is also a humanitarian and entrepreneur. She is the co-founder of the educational nonprofit organization, @korfoundation, , a nonprofit organization that provides social and academic support to students in rural villages of Nigeria and the U.S Marketing Executive Director for @crystalcourtlekki, a luxury hotel in Lekki Phase 1, Lagos, Nigeria.
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