Have you ever
experienced that feeling of incompletion? Everything seems right
externally. You've got a good job, your finances are in order, your business is
flourishing, your friends are amazing, and you’ve got a good man by your side! Although
life seems great, there’s still a feeling of emptiness that lies within you. You know there’s something
missing, but you can't put your finger on it.
You're searching for
your purpose. You're trying to figure out what your "WHY " is on this
earth. You've probably attempted to pursue a career in medicine, law, nursing,
etc. and realized it wasn’t your cup of tea. Or maybe you've even tried
pursuing a career in event planning, retail, beauty, and many other business
ventures that seem successful for other women. But you weren’t really into it. And guess what? There is absolutely nothing
wrong with that. Don’t settle, keep digging!
Here
are four tips that will help you find you purpose:
1.
Listen To Your
Life
Listening to your life is a matter of
observing ongoing patterns of feelings or emotions. Pay attention to these
signs. If there is a feeling of emptiness within you, don't ignore it, confront it! Outings, retail therapy, or going on a million
dates will not fill that void! Stay
still for once in your life. Take some alone time out of your life to self-reflect
and listen to your thoughts. This step will force you to
confront your fears and embrace your strengths. More importantly, it will trigger
growth.
2. Listen to Your Dissatisfaction
You are not satisfied
with where you are in life for multiple reasons. Acknowledge these reasons,
accept them and work on them! Transform this frustration into motivation by
doing the work that needs to be done to live a life of satisfaction. For instance, you may realize the profession
you're in isn't as fulfilling as it once was. You want more! This desire for
change and growth will push you to discover your talents.
3. Listen to Your Gifts
Stop ignoring what you
are great at. Yes, I know, you’re getting that degree to make your family
proud. But remember, it’s your life. Start embracing
your gifts. Everyone tells you how great you are at something and you push it
to the back burner because you're scared of taking risks. You've become so
afraid of being judged or talked about that you've started neglecting your
gifts.
Your family thinks you’re
silly for pursuing a career in writing and the thought of you pursuing a career
in fashion design is intimidating because of the competition. Stop doubting
your potential to succeed!
Embrace your magnificence! Your gifts and talents are
entirely unique to you and your purpose in this world. If you’re good at it, go for it. Perfect your gift,
plan it ( strategically of course) , and shoot for the stars. This
gift may create doorways of opportunity for you!
4. Listen
to Your Passion
You know exactly what you’re passionate about.
It’s that “thing” that brings you joy, excitement, and a sudden adrenaline
rush. You can easily envision yourself spending the rest of your life doing
this “thing.” But because you want to "play it safe", you call it a
hobby. You’ve allowed
your fear of failure to convince yourself that you are content. Cut it out ladies! Don't call it a hobby, it's your passion! Overlooking your passion will simply cultivate a life of
regret.
You were destined to
do something much greater than what you are doing now. But you will only find
out once you open your eyes and heart. Listen to your heart and inner wisdom.
It may feel slightly uncomfortable, but that’s a good thing! Explore that passion
further and see how things may go! As long as you are patient with the process,
you’ll be a few steps closer to your purpose.
Rita Obi, MPH is the founder of @buildingyou, a consulting
business that works with nonprofit startups to develop programs, workshops, and
events suitable to their persona, in an effort to secure funding. She has over
7 years of experience providing consulting services and training to nonprofits
startups in areas of program planning and fundraising. She has served
organizations in New York such as Children's Hospital At Montefiore, New York
City Food Policy Center and organizations in Nigeria such as UR4 Africa
and Head Start Private School .
Rita is also a humanitarian and entrepreneur. She is the
co-founder of the educational nonprofit organization, @korfoundation, , a
nonprofit organization that provides social and academic support to students in
rural villages of Nigeria and the U.S Marketing Executive Director for
@crystalcourtlekki, a luxury hotel in Lekki Phase 1, Lagos, Nigeria.
General
instagram page is @oluchi_ob
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